Warning: This is just a rant post to explain/get out some of my feelings. (Yes, I know, by the pattern today should be a non wedding related post, but I don't have anything else to post right now!)
I am getting married on May 25th, 2013 (yes, just over 10 months away), but I am already super stressed. Reasons why:
1. Looking at wedding sites makes me feel like I need to get everything done NOW (which I really don't, just feel like it).
2. I am trying to DIY a lot of things to save money. DIY means putting time into it. Which is alright sometimes, but I cannot make place cards until I know who is coming, and I will not know who is coming until I get RSVPs and I will not get RSVPs until I send out invites and I cannot send out invites until the proper time (6-8 weeks is the given "proper" time, but I am sending them earlier - March-ish) - see how this all created stress?
3. I've already been engaged for over 6 months!! At this point, most people are either 1. at their wedding or 2. halfway there. I, on the other hand, still have 10 months left! Maybe its stressing me out because we haven't celebrated being engaged (just jumped into wedding planning), but mom is finally planning something for later this fall (better late than never I guess).
4. I am anticipating being SUPER busy these last two semesters and don't know if I will have any wedding planning time (plus, I have another event to throw in late April/early May). Reasons why I will be super busy: Finishing off a teaching degree requires a full time commitment 3 days a week fall and 5 days a week spring semester. I have the honor of serving as President of my sorority for this next year (reason I am throwing the event). I will continue to work this fall. AND I have to find time for projects/homework/certification exams/a relationship with my fiance. PLUS any leftover wedding things I don't finish this summer... I makes me want to take a nap just thinking about it...
So, how do you deal with your busy schedule?
Maddie: I totally understand! I am getting married in a year and a half and the stress has already started. I am trying to get a lot done before I move away to law school because I know I won't have time while I'm in school, but it seems so far away it's hard to actually do anything! I also have this fear of making a commitment and then hating it (dress, cake, venue, etc) a year and a half from now. SO STRESSFUL! The best way I deal with it is focus on the marriage itself. That's the only thing that matters in the end. Me, my husband, and God. Doesn't take away the stress but helps keep things in perspective I think.
ReplyDeleteCatherine: Thank you so much! You are totally right! Fr. David told me that at one point (he even suggested taking some time off of planning the wedding to plan the honeymoon!) I totally understand your fear of commitment! (to wedding details, of course) In the beginning, I was able to make decisions about everything, but I second guessed myself about one thing (the dress) and now I can't decide anything!
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